We all know Kelly Cutrone as the one who made Lauren Conrad fire her good friend, Stephanie Pratt, at People’s Revolution on The Hills.  We know her from the little clips from her stints The Hills, The City and True Life.  Now, we can get to know her a little better from her own words. 

Kelly’s new book, “If You Have To Cry Go Outside” gives an inside look into the life philosophy of  “tough cookie” but it’s pretty safe to say that most fashion folks would agree they’d be scared and intimidated of the PR guru. 

Besides building one of the most successful boutique PR Fashion firms, Kelly’s revelations in her book show that her hard as nails reputation may not be completely justified.  The sometimes too honest publicist shares personal and professional stories of her past that have helped mold her to the strong, powerful woman she is today.

She takes us into extremely personal issues regarding  her love life, spiritual well- being and professional turbulences that have occurred along her life journey that have taken her to the top of her game.   Kelly considers herself a very spiritual person after a breakthrough during her time in Los Angeles.  “Being ‘spiritual’ and being ‘nice’ have absolutely nothing to do with each other,” she says.  Her devotion to her career, which she loves, is her spiritual practice.  “There is a word for this in India: karmayoga.  I am a karmayogi – someone who becomes conscious of herself and the Divine through work, not through meditation.…” Anointing herself a Hindu-esque Tantric Toltec Priestess of her own DIY religion, Kelly’s says her spiritual experience is about manifesting the Divine in herself and in everything she does.  

In this easy to read book, Kelly has developed a guide for a young girls in today’s world.  She preaches that we need to discover who we are and what we want to do with our lives.  Stop pretending and start living is what this single-mother advises to her staff at People’s Revolution.  She considers herself the “mama wolf” of the pack.  She admits she will get mad at you if you mess up from time to time.  But ultimately, her goal is to provide encouragement for learning to do tasks properly and set up a course for success.

Kelly advises that building a “tribal council ” is the way to survive the vicissitudes of life.  Referring to Andrew Haden- Guest as one of her first members of her tribal council, “a group of wise elders I’ve assembled over the years to advice me on everything from money to spirituality to how to raise a child alone.” Your tribe, she says, should consist of like-minded souls who make your heart sing – it’s people who inspire you, provide guidance and mentor you.  Not always following the straight and narrow path, Kelly takes us all over the place in her hilarious, brutally honest book from her first few years in New York to her time in LA and then back to NYC to where she currently resides.

This book may be a good inspiration for recent college grads or mature women undergoing a transition period in their life.  The book will enlighten you on how to “fake it to make it, give good phone, respect your mama wolf and that bitch is not always a bad word.”

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